The line between friend and foe?
We are most certainly sure that friendships will not last forever, some are just too fragile to commit and some we may trust unconditionally.
Mutual trust cannot be established within a short period of time, nor we cannot assume them to be faithful even after 5 or 10 years. So how much can you trust your classmate, housemate, kindergarden friend, or your partner?
This question can be very subjective as everybody’s priorities are obviously different. Some may think work is more important, relationship with their partner is their life, their religion is what makes them and lots more. All these are debatlable among individuals and we shall not judge for everyone has different perspectives.
The more important question is what are friends for? Friends are there to help you out when your family is not available. They are sincere at heart with hands to spare at times. They’re the shoulder for you to cry on and the sandbag for your anger disposal.
Some people in our life step over the line too much that you couldn’t stand it. They betrayed you, used you, and forgot about your existance until they run out of number to dial.
“Hey, come over for dinner. There are leftovers and you might like it” Just because they don’t eat leftovers and feel guilty to waste food.
“Can you come and fetch me at the station?” Just because you’re too lazy to walk a couple blocks and reason you have a car.
“Do you want to go for a trip?” Just because you can be their chauffeur. After they got their own car, they don’t even think of inviting you anymore.
It is sad to see your friend’s true face after you had built your trust upon them. However we have to avoid denial and cross them out our friends list, or we shall be hurt.
September 29th, 2008 at 4:18 pm
Good thing you realised before it’s too late.
September 29th, 2008 at 4:53 pm
Yea.. “It’s never too late”
September 30th, 2008 at 1:50 pm
I don’t think any of us wants to find out how late is “too late”
September 30th, 2008 at 5:23 pm
That’s something nobody knows for sure.
October 1st, 2008 at 9:27 am
the reality of life.
October 5th, 2008 at 5:54 pm
Hmm before I get beaten round the head as I may appear a bit harsh and direct, I would just like to point out that your disclaimer of this post, also applies to what I’m about to say: “This question can be very subjective as everybody’s priorities are obviously different.” I appreciate your opinion and would jsut like to say a few words.
You say:
“Friends are there to help you out when your family is not available. They are sincere at heart with hands to spare at times. They’re the shoulder for you to cry on and the sandbag for your anger disposal.” This would be your definition. My definition is more of people to share experiences with, people to care for and be cared after. If your making a friend just to help you out then you have no right to complain that they are seekign ur help as well.
I am unsure what kind of friends you have had throughout ur life, and I dont know which category u have classified me under, and perhaps I dun want to know. For me I think the truth how friends fail is when their definition of frens do not match. And basically that is the reality of life.
I sense a lot of pessimism in your post. Its not always because ppl wanted to use u, make themselves feel better, or put you down to their own benefit. Friends are like relationships, marriage, companionship, etc. If they dont share at least a common viewpoint, one day they will probably fail. Should that happen one day between us, I will not put the blame on u or myself, its just how we are. We are shaped differently and have different desires in life. At the same time I will not cut off a friend unless it is harming my goals in life. Cos hey, don’t we understand we’re all human?
Anyway, heard you’re in a relationship now. Kudos to you! Take care there.
October 5th, 2008 at 6:11 pm
I’m amazed that everytime you comment my post with your upmost sincerity. I really appreciate that.
I wrote: “The more important question is what are friends for?” I’m simply just blabbling, not DEFINING what friend is.
There’s no pessimism at the time of writing. Things just come through my mind and I feel like writing it down.
Sincerity is an important part in a relationship. Without it, every other viewpoint you share will just reduce to none.
Perhaps I did not express my thoughts clearly, my apologies for that. I should have mentioned sincerity of them. People without sincerity, do we still acknowledge them?
October 5th, 2008 at 6:41 pm
Haha, you don’t have to apologize for what you’ve written. It’s your site anyway. I guess that means I should apologize for being rather blunt =p. Well I guess you can say I’m pretty much happy go lucky, good sometimes but not always hehe. And as I said I wouldn’t not acknowledge a friend unless my goals in life are being obstructed because of it.
Oh and save me a pic for your graduation yea. I will be coming straight from work, but might be a bit delayed. Cya! =)