Comments on: The line between friend and foe? http://www.philchoong.com/blog/2008/09/29/the-line-between-friend-and-foe/ where I rest my thoughts... Tue, 06 Jan 2009 12:11:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Tarnos http://www.philchoong.com/blog/2008/09/29/the-line-between-friend-and-foe/#comment-2320 Tarnos Sun, 05 Oct 2008 08:41:25 +0000 http://www.philchoong.com/blog/?p=183#comment-2320 Haha, you don't have to apologize for what you've written. It's your site anyway. I guess that means I should apologize for being rather blunt =p. Well I guess you can say I'm pretty much happy go lucky, good sometimes but not always hehe. And as I said I wouldn't not acknowledge a friend unless my goals in life are being obstructed because of it. Oh and save me a pic for your graduation yea. I will be coming straight from work, but might be a bit delayed. Cya! =) Haha, you don’t have to apologize for what you’ve written. It’s your site anyway. I guess that means I should apologize for being rather blunt =p. Well I guess you can say I’m pretty much happy go lucky, good sometimes but not always hehe. And as I said I wouldn’t not acknowledge a friend unless my goals in life are being obstructed because of it.

Oh and save me a pic for your graduation yea. I will be coming straight from work, but might be a bit delayed. Cya! =)

]]> By: blurblur http://www.philchoong.com/blog/2008/09/29/the-line-between-friend-and-foe/#comment-2319 blurblur Sun, 05 Oct 2008 08:11:29 +0000 http://www.philchoong.com/blog/?p=183#comment-2319 I'm amazed that everytime you comment my post with your upmost sincerity. I really appreciate that. I wrote: "The more important question is what are friends for?" I'm simply just blabbling, not DEFINING what friend is. There's no pessimism at the time of writing. Things just come through my mind and I feel like writing it down. Sincerity is an important part in a relationship. Without it, every other viewpoint you share will just reduce to none. Perhaps I did not express my thoughts clearly, my apologies for that. I should have mentioned sincerity of them. People without sincerity, do we still acknowledge them? I’m amazed that everytime you comment my post with your upmost sincerity. I really appreciate that.

I wrote: “The more important question is what are friends for?” I’m simply just blabbling, not DEFINING what friend is.

There’s no pessimism at the time of writing. Things just come through my mind and I feel like writing it down.

Sincerity is an important part in a relationship. Without it, every other viewpoint you share will just reduce to none.

Perhaps I did not express my thoughts clearly, my apologies for that. I should have mentioned sincerity of them. People without sincerity, do we still acknowledge them?

]]> By: Tarnos http://www.philchoong.com/blog/2008/09/29/the-line-between-friend-and-foe/#comment-2318 Tarnos Sun, 05 Oct 2008 07:54:11 +0000 http://www.philchoong.com/blog/?p=183#comment-2318 Hmm before I get beaten round the head as I may appear a bit harsh and direct, I would just like to point out that your disclaimer of this post, also applies to what I'm about to say: "This question can be very subjective as everybody’s priorities are obviously different." I appreciate your opinion and would jsut like to say a few words. You say: "Friends are there to help you out when your family is not available. They are sincere at heart with hands to spare at times. They’re the shoulder for you to cry on and the sandbag for your anger disposal." This would be your definition. My definition is more of people to share experiences with, people to care for and be cared after. If your making a friend just to help you out then you have no right to complain that they are seekign ur help as well. I am unsure what kind of friends you have had throughout ur life, and I dont know which category u have classified me under, and perhaps I dun want to know. For me I think the truth how friends fail is when their definition of frens do not match. And basically that is the reality of life. I sense a lot of pessimism in your post. Its not always because ppl wanted to use u, make themselves feel better, or put you down to their own benefit. Friends are like relationships, marriage, companionship, etc. If they dont share at least a common viewpoint, one day they will probably fail. Should that happen one day between us, I will not put the blame on u or myself, its just how we are. We are shaped differently and have different desires in life. At the same time I will not cut off a friend unless it is harming my goals in life. Cos hey, don't we understand we're all human? Anyway, heard you're in a relationship now. Kudos to you! Take care there. Hmm before I get beaten round the head as I may appear a bit harsh and direct, I would just like to point out that your disclaimer of this post, also applies to what I’m about to say: “This question can be very subjective as everybody’s priorities are obviously different.” I appreciate your opinion and would jsut like to say a few words.

You say:
“Friends are there to help you out when your family is not available. They are sincere at heart with hands to spare at times. They’re the shoulder for you to cry on and the sandbag for your anger disposal.” This would be your definition. My definition is more of people to share experiences with, people to care for and be cared after. If your making a friend just to help you out then you have no right to complain that they are seekign ur help as well.

I am unsure what kind of friends you have had throughout ur life, and I dont know which category u have classified me under, and perhaps I dun want to know. For me I think the truth how friends fail is when their definition of frens do not match. And basically that is the reality of life.

I sense a lot of pessimism in your post. Its not always because ppl wanted to use u, make themselves feel better, or put you down to their own benefit. Friends are like relationships, marriage, companionship, etc. If they dont share at least a common viewpoint, one day they will probably fail. Should that happen one day between us, I will not put the blame on u or myself, its just how we are. We are shaped differently and have different desires in life. At the same time I will not cut off a friend unless it is harming my goals in life. Cos hey, don’t we understand we’re all human?

Anyway, heard you’re in a relationship now. Kudos to you! Take care there.

]]> By: rachel http://www.philchoong.com/blog/2008/09/29/the-line-between-friend-and-foe/#comment-2310 rachel Tue, 30 Sep 2008 23:27:20 +0000 http://www.philchoong.com/blog/?p=183#comment-2310 the reality of life. the reality of life.

]]> By: blurblur http://www.philchoong.com/blog/2008/09/29/the-line-between-friend-and-foe/#comment-2307 blurblur Tue, 30 Sep 2008 07:23:58 +0000 http://www.philchoong.com/blog/?p=183#comment-2307 That's something nobody knows for sure. That’s something nobody knows for sure.

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